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Updated: Aug 23

by: Yvette Valdenegro

You are a hard-working American woman who is self-sufficient and intelligent, yet you grind daily in circles. Business, work, careers, families, kids, and relationships are constantly tugging at you. As a society, we work hard, are productive, and work many hours – with minimally paid holiday, vacation, and parental leave to show for it. Personal time? What’s that? Where is the personal time as you work harder, try to be more efficient, and take on more to gain financial wealth? As you think about your business & career situation, you will notice your thoughts and emotions fit into two distinct categories. You either find yourself tied to your business with past emotions or think of it in future feelings. Let’s understand how.


Past emotions toward our business & work can creep in without us knowing. You can feel guilt, regret, resentment, and bitterness. Guilt runs rampant among women because we try to juggle so much and wear so many different hats daily. We have guilty thoughts about the hours we work, the guilt if we have children, and guilt around taking personal time for relationships and ourselves. Comparisons are going on in our heads, mindsets about what women should be doing at home or just being a powerhouse at work. Balancing life can become overwhelming, and regret sets in because we can’t do it all. This regret leads to resentment and bitterness toward ourselves, our work, and those around us.


Future emotions mentally beat us up in ways we may not notice. Stress is a future emotion that causes mental and emotional strain. Stress is the number one cause of health issues. When you begin to pull back the layers of stress, you will see how overall health and stress concerning work are all intertwined. Stress feeds anxiety. Anxiety grips our future thoughts about the future before it even happens. We allow perceptions of the future, uncertainties, and doubts about actions that haven’t even occurred to affect us now.



You may find yourself having a love-hate relationship with your work & business. You constantly feel like there is never enough time and resources to overcome these hurdles. Ideally, working toward living in the present is the goal. We can’t change the past, nor can we predict the future, but we can control our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors now.


Living on a merry-go-round of habitual thoughts is not getting you anywhere. The efforts to successfully change are not working. We are here to help you overcome living in the past and worrying about the future.


YGC Relationship Coaches:

Yvette Valdenegro

Geovanna Burgess White

@ygcollaborations


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by: Yvette Valdenegro

At the core of human interaction is a need to relate and communicate. This instinct of interacting with another person or thing is what we call relationships. We can have casual relationships, such as one's with co-workers, people we interact with less frequently or say even our mobile phones. Now that I have your attention, once you see how, you will give yourself a little giggle the next time your phone rings; it interrupts you, and you see the words' possible spam'. We also obviously have our closest, more intimate relationships with our significant others, children, families, work, careers, business, and, yes again, our phones.


Our relationships can be described more elaborately by looking into the word's actual meaning. We define relationships by which two things CONNECT, the BEHAVIOR toward each other and the EMOTION you have toward a person or thing.

Whether you have said it to yourself, a friend, or heard it in a movie, 'we have such a CONNECTION' is a cliche we dislike hearing but secretly want to feel. Science tells us that social connection is a fundamental human need. We have learned, more importantly, that it keeps us happier and healthier amid a crisis. We desire to have this connection as it provides a sense of security. In our close relationships, we feel an attachment and bond, even tethered to another. I dare say that most entrepreneurs have these same feelings toward their businesses, work, and careers. They have the excitement and lofty feelings of a connection to another or thing that gives us a sense of attachment.


We measure how our relationships are doing based on BEHAVIORS we have toward those relationships. How are we acting? Have we formed habits around the relationship? How much effort is given or taken in the relationship? We do this with our human relationships and relationships with things, business, work, and careers. Suppose you went to work today, seemed disconnected, procrastinated, and missed scheduled meetings. In that case, I'd say you don't have a healthy relationship with your work. Suppose the opposite occurred, and you engaged with others, finished your tasks on time, and looked forward to meetings. In that case, I'd say your outlook on work is healthier.


For some reason, we teach each other to stay away from EMOTIONS. However, we believe emotions are something you can not escape. Our emotions come from a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from our circumstances. You are already naturally hard-wired to have emotions, and these emotions originate from your life circumstances. Life happens, and emotions happen. In turn, this can set and create your mood. These feelings are also intuitive, which means they arise from reasoning and knowledge. Your reason and knowledge can only come from the past. You have emotion because it is attached to your history and experience. Emotions also give us the feeling of sensation, a response, or a reaction.


All three words, CONNECT, BEHAVIOR, and EMOTION, give a more profound, more precise description of the meaning behind relationships. We are constantly connecting, behaving, and emoting toward our relationships. These three pertain to our close human relationships and the more abstract relationships with our business, work, and careers. Remember what we said about our mobile devices? Now that we have described how we connect, behave, and emote, we have a relationship with our phones. We are attached to them, have a bond, have formed daily routines and habits, put in lots of effort to keep up with them, and have good or bad thoughts about them. We can even say these thoughts come from a history of interaction with them. We can form sensations when notifications sound and respond to them in habitual unconscious behaviors. We program our phones when we purchase them to interact with us how we feel best suits our needs. The notifications, sounds, emails, texts, wallpapers, Siri, Bixby, and social media content make us respond, behave, and connect. The next time you are in a public setting, watch how tethered and bonded people are with their phones.


There is strength, growth, and intuitive interaction in healthy relationships. Wanting more, desiring a deeper connection, and feeling like you are in a secure place with your closest relationships are natural. Follow your instincts to discover more effective ways to promote your good health. If you feel like you are spinning in circles, haven't found anything that is consistently working for you, or are beyond frustrated, please take the time to reach out to us. Taking the first step toward having solid relationships is a substantial investment in you and the best way to change the relationships in which you invest.

YGC Relationship Coaches:

Yvette Valdenegro

Geovanna Burgess White

@ygcollaborations


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REdesigning YOUR Marriage


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REbalance with YOUR Business


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by: Yvette Valdenegro

The REdesigning Your Relationship Podcast, with hosts Yvette Valdenegro & Geovanna Burgess White of YG Collaborations, takes a forward-thinking approach to help women REdesign, ReCover & ReBalance their relationships. We want to take a moment to explain what that means and why we choose to emphasize the 'RE' in each word.


According to Oxford Languages and Google, the prefix 'RE' means once more, afresh; anew. The mere definition already opens up the window of possibilities. Imagine looking out that window, in the future, with the relationships that currently leave you feeling frustrated and angry. Is it possible to look at the future with your closest relationships in a positive light? What if you could not only look in the future but also imagine them afresh and anew? You CAN look at your relationships afresh and anew. No matter the state. We coach our clients through a framework grounded in the meaning of RE. RE is emphasized with capital letters to remind us that we will practice this repeatedly with an intense force that comes from within ourselves.


We frequently use three words in our vernacular: REdesign, REcover & REbalance, and Here's why:


REdesign

This REdesign is the best part of the whole process. We can REdesign ourselves! There is no limit to redesigning how we look, feel, think, and interact with our closest relationships and life. REdesigning your relationships can happen again and in a different way that you get to create. Be the author, editor, publisher, illustrator, and advertising agency of your story! WATCH HERE


REcover

Recovery's goal is to return to the state of health, mind, and strength you desire for your life. REcovery also embraces the idea of regaining something that was stolen or lost. You may feel part of your life has been stolen, lost over time, or through an unfortunate situation. The circumstances of life can affect you over time without realizing how far you have fallen off the original track guiding your life.

We believe you can feel like yourself again and return to your personal life's journey. Living a life of Recovery is taking active steps to improve, turn the corner, and pull through, all while gaining what you lost within yourself back. Notice those are all action words with the implied intention of action. WATCH HERE


REbalance


Every car owner knows that having just one of your wheels unbalanced on your car can create difficulties. The vehicle can begin to vibrate, steering problems occur, the tire can unevenly wear, and you can get lousy fuel economy. These primary symptoms arise because the tires are unbalanced. We, too, can go through wear and tear when we become unbalanced with who we have turned out to be, the lost goals, vision, and purpose for our lives. Living an abundant life and being on track with ourselves from within will establish equality and balance. This stability will keep you upright and stable when the challenges of life try to invade your relationships. WATCH HERE


If you habitually do the same things repeatedly but do not get the desired results, then jump off the negative patterns. Being disconnected, alone, and unsatisfied is not a way to live. Not when you have a choice to live a fearless, empowered, fulfilled, and purpose-driven life.

The quickest way to REdesign, REcover & REbalance your relationships is to watch this three-part podcast series and sign up for a connection call with us. We enjoy responding to comments and hearing from you!


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