Divorce - Debilitating or Restorative? You Choose

by: Yvette Valdenegro

The number of adults entering marital commitments is significantly decreasing; however, the divorce rate remains between 44-46%. Even though the marriage percentage has decreased, it remains one of the most significant events in a person's life. When a marriage begins to break down, and partners begin to drift apart, the inevitable thought of divorce lingers in the foreground. It can become an unspoken idea that can take root and grow over time. If it matures to full fruition, you may begin to feel the weight of deciding on what to do. The inevitable do I or do I not get divorced hangs around our necks, choking the life out of the ability to determine. Just as getting married is a life-altering decision, so too is the decision to get divorced. At this level, we become overly consumed with right and wrong. We offer a few things to consider when thinking through your options.

Once you are in a relationship that reaches the heightened confrontations of contemplating divorce, you are at a crossroads of choices. Being grounded and having a realistic outlook for your future is extremely important. The stress and overwhelm can easily cloud your judgment and options. We feel debilitated in every area of our life. The negative thoughts have sprouted and created roots of despair, anger, and defeat. Even the strongest person experiences the debilitating effects of divorce. Feeling weak despite your physical strength and fatigue leads to immobilization. Sometimes this cloudiness affects us so much that the advice we would give our best friend we often overlook for ourselves. One fact will remain in your process of agonizing over divorce: No matter what you choose, you will need to go through a therapeutic process in the long run.

If you decide to stay married, the goal should be to seek help restoring the marriage. There are usually years of tension, lack of communication, isolation, maybe even adultery, physical neglect, and financial losses. All of these critical intimate subjects will need to be rebuilt and restored. Suppose the choice to be divorced is decided. In that case, the healthy objective is to also go through a restoration process. We may feel the desire to take revenge, cast a negative light on our ex-partner, or blame them for all wrongdoing. However, if the marriage has failed, you must choose your next steps. Do you decide to punish each other or begin the repair of the harm that has occurred? Both parties will experience a loss, and the ability to step back, look at the big picture, and begin to rebuild your life should start with YOU.

Listen to Redesigning Your Relationship Podcast for greater insight and discussion with hosts and Relationship Coaches Yvette Valdenegro & Geovanna Burgess White.

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‘Crack Your Ice’ with Podcast Guest Rainier Wylde

by: Yvette Valdenegro

Fall in Love with Life with this Author, Healer, & Coach

It seems unfair to the universe to try and capture everything our guest, Rainier Wylde, shared on the podcast REdesigning Your Relationships with hosts Yvette Valdenegro & Geovanna Burgess White. Rainier's credentials stretch along years of experience, including writing a book, As You Are, being a healer, coach, and podcaster. All essential and crafted to the foundation he has created in his life. Rainier is quite the renaissance man with a sprinkle of JRR Tolkien, Abraham, a Yogi, and Grizzly Adams.

This intriguing combination of characters helps give you a visual to the world of Rainier Wylde. Tolkien is known around the world by millions for his famous works, Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit, These legendary books birth out of a story designed to tell children at night before bed. Children and adults read these stories and get lost in words, in the characters, the journeys, and the heroes we want to relate to and aspire to be. Rainier, too, has this gift to draw you into his story, imagination, words, and the skill of teaching you something simultaneously. His words will catch you by surprise, hold you with a calm tone, and admonish you to learn. Rainer's beard will instantly visually remind you of wisdom, adventure, and a life lived. His calm voice and knowledge will draw you in, lighten your senses, and leave you wanting more. Isn't that what a good storyteller should do? Teach and share in such a way that you are not aware of the academic but aware of the transformation happening inside by just listening to a beautifully told story.

This synopsis for our Podcast episode with Rainier will be short, brief, and to the point: Watch and listen! Watch and let the visual lead you quickly into the universal guided metaphors Rainier uses. This audible treasure is authentic and inspiring, with stories guaranteed to begin transforming you. Allow Rainier to 'crack your ice.' Your time will be well spent.

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Get Educated | Your Relationship with College and Learning with Symone Flowers

by: Yvette Valdenegro

As the Summer begins to roll into Fall and the stores are full of back-to-school supplies, we all feel the rush. Significant transitions for many happen at this time, especially for students. The transition from high school to college, internships, and into the workforce is a process. Symone Flowers, a college student entering her senior year at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, shares tips about going to college, money, time management, and the latest work-life culture. You will be surprised at the lack of essential life skills taught during any stages of our adult careers. The information college students and business professionals need to know about each other still have barriers.

Symone Flowers proclaims to be a

‘Pro Gen Z-er’ who doesn’t just talk the talk but walks the walk. This declaration isn’t said boastfully, but in retrospect, she has learned and continues to learn as she pursues her education. During her podcast interview with Yvette Valdenegro & Geovanna Burgess White, hosts of the REdesigning Your Relationships Podcast, Symone graciously shared priceless insights so far from her journey.

Tip #1 - Not Enough Fun vs. Too Much Fun

We all know half of the excitement surrounding college is the actual experiences you can create while getting an education. Sometimes students find themselves a little unbalanced with their time and what they are doing daily. Unfortunately, your academic grades reveal evidence of discovering which side of the work-life balance you are on. Each semester you are given a pretty accurate indicator through finalized grades. For those that are successful in the classroom yet struggling to meet people and have fun, Symone suggests stepping out of your comfort zone and exploring new opportunities. Anyone who admittedly abuses this skill needs to be setting time aside dedicated time to get stuff done. Symone highly recommends acquiring and learning time management skills to get organized.

Tip #2 - Reward Yourself

It is so much easier to be motivated to complete an assignment when you can reward yourself at the end. Taking action and then rewarding yourself is something Symone feels she learned through playing sports, but realistically anyone can achieve it. Motivation is crucial so find something you can reward yourself with after you complete your task. Symone suggests taking large assignments and breaking them down into smaller blocks of time that you work, giving yourself mini breaks while accomplishing the big goal.

Tip #3 - Budget Your Money

She found it was difficult not to be able to participate in an off-campus activity because she could not afford it. She talks about her relationship with money, how important it is to budget your money, and how she alleviated her stress by doing budgets that made sense to her. She also highly recommended the resource myunidays.com for those looking for coupons and discounts offered only to college students.

Tip #4 - In Retrospect

Symone had a few tips for her former freshman self. Do not stress about money. Meet new people. Do this organically by getting out and doing what you like, or join a group you are interested. You will naturally meet people who are already interested in something you like, which is a neutral denominator to getting to know someone.

Tip #5 - Be Aware of the Significance of Women vs. Men in the Workforce

This tip comes from a young woman recognizing and witnessing the significant difference and adjusting to new environments. Symone feels the awareness of women in STEM is better but not where it needs to be across the industries. The conversation opened up the realities women still face in the workforce. Women go into the work ‘battle’ knowing they must fight for their value. Many great concepts and thoughts are brought up about this concluding topic. We welcome you to listen to grasp the importance of what women say, especially in STEM industries. Symone asked for all the men who see, understand, and value women’s perceptions and abilities at work, to be an ally. There are apparent differences between men and women. Still, in a work environment, all can be treated as equals, and let’s all use our power for good. Men have a unique opportunity to use their work privileges to support women in the workplace.

Soon the REdesigning Your Relationship Podcast will bring back this topic to discuss further the importance of creating a positive culture in our business. Being passive about hot issues doesn’t help anyone or anything. Still, open communication and learning about others will always bring positive change. Unfortunately, not everyone learned business communication skills, time management, calendar integrity, and how to meet new people. It seems so simple, but maybe, there are areas for improvement within ourselves or our businesses. For more podcasts surrounding these necessary skills, please visit our podcast library for REdesigning Your Relationship Podcast on these major platforms: Spotify, Apple Podcast & YouTube.

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