Inspiration & Communication for Women with Side Hustles

by: Yvette Valdenegro

Have you ever met someone inspirational, not just because of what you hear them say but also by what you see them do? There are a lot of smooth talkers, and not everyone's ability to talk a big game matches their actual hustle. Not the case with Deissy Ayala, Dental Hygienist by day and a super side hustler by night. Her inspiration to lead and help others has brought recent success in ways she would not have imagined.

Deissy Ayala is a dental hygienist, and through her job, she was introduced to a specific device to help patients. She took it upon herself to learn all she could about this machine, use it in their offices, and teach others the extraordinary benefits of the device. Deissy spoke directly to the company manufacturing the device and asked just one simple question, 'are you teaching the other dental offices how to use this machine?' Once she realized the answer was no, she took it upon herself to be an advocate for both the machine and the dental hygienists using the devices properly. Filling the need to teach and train others opened the door to taking the lead and beginning her side hustle. She now does both and is a win for all. During episode 25 of our Redesigning Your Relationship podcast, we heard all the details behind this inspirational journey. Deissy graciously shares her suggestions to anyone thinking of starting a side hustle and what is needed to do to ensure you land your new side hustle.

Once you have spent just a few minutes listening to Deissy, you automatically hear the golden word nuggets she effortlessly shares. Besides helping the dental community, Deissy is open about seeking help along the way. She went to a therapist who helped her to see that she needed to give herself time to get it all done, rest, and be patient with herself. Deissy also sought a professional coach who had been through a similar situation while working a 9-5 job and side hustling after hours. Time is money, and Deissy believes and testifies to the personal investment of hiring a coach. Deissy completely subscribes to finding proper support before, during, and after you decide to expand your business. The significant change in our lives requires the ability to overcome fears, welcome the new, break traditions, and conquer worry. Having the support will help you keep moving forward on the days you might not want to.

Part One of our podcast collaboration is on our podcast, REdesigning Your Relationship. Make sure to listen to Part Two on Daisy's podcast, Life is Full of Deissy's. This two-part series contains inspirational golden word nuggets and easy action steps to get results in your side hustle.

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Past & Future Emotions in Your Business

by: Yvette Valdenegro

You are a hard-working American woman who is self-sufficient and intelligent, yet you grind daily in circles. Business, work, careers, families, kids, and relationships are constantly tugging at you. As a society, we work hard, are productive, and work many hours – with minimally paid holiday, vacation, and parental leave to show for it. Personal time? What’s that? Where is the personal time as you work harder, try to be more efficient, and take on more to gain financial wealth? As you think about your business & career situation, you will notice your thoughts and emotions fit into two distinct categories. You either find yourself tied to your business with past emotions or think of it in future feelings. Let’s understand how.

Past emotions toward our business & work can creep in without us knowing. You can feel guilt, regret, resentment, and bitterness. Guilt runs rampant among women because we try to juggle so much and wear so many different hats daily. We have guilty thoughts about the hours we work, the guilt if we have children, and guilt around taking personal time for relationships and ourselves. Comparisons are going on in our heads, mindsets about what women should be doing at home or just being a powerhouse at work. Balancing life can become overwhelming, and regret sets in because we can’t do it all. This regret leads to resentment and bitterness toward ourselves, our work, and those around us.

Future emotions mentally beat us up in ways we may not notice. Stress is a future emotion that causes mental and emotional strain. Stress is the number one cause of health issues. When you begin to pull back the layers of stress, you will see how overall health and stress concerning work are all intertwined. Stress feeds anxiety. Anxiety grips our future thoughts about the future before it even happens. We allow perceptions of the future, uncertainties, and doubts about actions that haven’t even occurred to affect us now.

You may find yourself having a love-hate relationship with your work & business. You constantly feel like there is never enough time and resources to overcome these hurdles. Ideally, working toward living in the present is the goal. We can’t change the past, nor can we predict the future, but we can control our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors now.

Living on a merry-go-round of habitual thoughts is not getting you anywhere. The efforts to successfully change are not working. We are here to help you overcome living in the past and worrying about the future.

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YGC Relationship Coaching Definition of Relationships

by: Yvette Valdenegro

At the core of human interaction is a need to relate and communicate. This instinct of interacting with another person or thing is what we call relationships. We can have casual relationships, such as one's with co-workers, people we interact with less frequently or say even our mobile phones. Now that I have your attention, once you see how, you will give yourself a little giggle the next time your phone rings; it interrupts you, and you see the words' possible spam'. We also obviously have our closest, more intimate relationships with our significant others, children, families, work, careers, business, and, yes again, our phones.

Our relationships can be described more elaborately by looking into the word's actual meaning. We define relationships by which two things CONNECT, the BEHAVIOR toward each other and the EMOTION you have toward a person or thing.

Whether you have said it to yourself, a friend, or heard it in a movie, 'we have such a CONNECTION' is a cliche we dislike hearing but secretly want to feel. Science tells us that social connection is a fundamental human need. We have learned, more importantly, that it keeps us happier and healthier amid a crisis. We desire to have this connection as it provides a sense of security. In our close relationships, we feel an attachment and bond, even tethered to another. I dare say that most entrepreneurs have these same feelings toward their businesses, work, and careers. They have the excitement and lofty feelings of a connection to another or thing that gives us a sense of attachment.

We measure how our relationships are doing based on BEHAVIORS we have toward those relationships. How are we acting? Have we formed habits around the relationship? How much effort is given or taken in the relationship? We do this with our human relationships and relationships with things, business, work, and careers. Suppose you went to work today, seemed disconnected, procrastinated, and missed scheduled meetings. In that case, I'd say you don't have a healthy relationship with your work. Suppose the opposite occurred, and you engaged with others, finished your tasks on time, and looked forward to meetings. In that case, I'd say your outlook on work is healthier.

For some reason, we teach each other to stay away from EMOTIONS. However, we believe emotions are something you can not escape. Our emotions come from a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from our circumstances. You are already naturally hard-wired to have emotions, and these emotions originate from your life circumstances. Life happens, and emotions happen. In turn, this can set and create your mood. These feelings are also intuitive, which means they arise from reasoning and knowledge. Your reason and knowledge can only come from the past. You have emotion because it is attached to your history and experience. Emotions also give us the feeling of sensation, a response, or a reaction.

All three words, CONNECT, BEHAVIOR, and EMOTION, give a more profound, more precise description of the meaning behind relationships. We are constantly connecting, behaving, and emoting toward our relationships. These three pertain to our close human relationships and the more abstract relationships with our business, work, and careers. Remember what we said about our mobile devices? Now that we have described how we connect, behave, and emote, we have a relationship with our phones. We are attached to them, have a bond, have formed daily routines and habits, put in lots of effort to keep up with them, and have good or bad thoughts about them. We can even say these thoughts come from a history of interaction with them. We can form sensations when notifications sound and respond to them in habitual unconscious behaviors. We program our phones when we purchase them to interact with us how we feel best suits our needs. The notifications, sounds, emails, texts, wallpapers, Siri, Bixby, and social media content make us respond, behave, and connect. The next time you are in a public setting, watch how tethered and bonded people are with their phones.

There is strength, growth, and intuitive interaction in healthy relationships. Wanting more, desiring a deeper connection, and feeling like you are in a secure place with your closest relationships are natural. Follow your instincts to discover more effective ways to promote your good health. If you feel like you are spinning in circles, haven't found anything that is consistently working for you, or are beyond frustrated, please take the time to reach out to us. Taking the first step toward having solid relationships is a substantial investment in you and the best way to change the relationships in which you invest.

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